Is Your Sexless Marriage Fixable?

by ricksex on October 31, 2011

Dealing with a sexless marriage can be one of the hardest things in the world. It’s not just the rejection and lack of intimacy, but also not knowing whether there is any hope for the future. Most people, I believe, can accept a crisis in their marriage and are willing to put a lot of work into it. However, not knowing whether this situation if fixable can be downright demoralizing.

So, can your sexless marriage be saved? Can you turn things around and get the passion back into your life?

sad couple

There is, unfortunately, no clear answer. Each couple is a complete world, a story like no other. Therefore, it is impossible to say with certainty how long it will take to get the passion back into your marriage or if it’s beyond salvation.

That being said, there are a number of questions that you can ask yourself that may give you some clue as to what you may be facing.

1. Is the love alive?

Do you still love your partner and does your partner still love you? Without this, there is no hope for improvement. Fixing a sexless marriage requires work. You will need to be able to face rejection, humiliation, and pain to heal your relationship. Without love there is no point to it all.

2. Is your partner willing to see a doctor?

This is where the search for a solution begins. You see, some medication or health conditions, such as hormonal issues and diabetes, may cause a reduction in a person’s sex drive. The conditions change from a woman to a man, but this is the first place I’d look. If there is a physical condition which is causing the problem, it may be very easy to fix. Your partner may need treatment or to switch medication. However, it is much easier than having to go through a painful process in your relationship.

3. Is There Trust?

The cause of your sexless marriage may be due to an affair or some other breach of trust. If you and your partner don’t trust each other, it will be difficult to rebuild the intimacy between you. Intimacy and passion are about more than attraction. They are also dependent on trust. You should talk about this and do whatever needs to be done to create a stronger bond between you two.

4. Are You Ready For A Long Push?

I can’t say for sure how long it will take to fix things between you two. It may take months. It may never happen. You need to be ready to make a long term effort. If you’re not then there is little chance that you’ll make it.

Finally, do you have faith?

This is the main thing: do you believe in your marriage? Do you believe in your ability to resurrect the love between you? If so, then you have a good chance to make things better. If not, then you are doomed before you start.

I believe that there are ways to make things right in many cases. I can’t be sure for everyone, but if you have faith, then there is room for hope.

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